How You Go There Podcast

Self-care is not a reward you earn after everything else is finished. It is part of the framework that helps you keep showing up for the people, work, and goals that matter.In this episode, Scott Montgomery and Linda Misegadis move beyond the one-time, social-media version of self-care and explore six practical dimensions: personal, spiritual, physical, behavioral, emotional, and professional. They talk about preparing for demanding seasons, making healthy practices non-negotiable, protecting your energy through boundaries, asking for support, and recognizing that sustainable growth rarely comes from a complete life overhaul.The takeaway is simple: start where you are. Notice which dimension needs attention, then choose one small action that helps you move forward with intention.Watch the episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/Xbvs65JhpM0Explore the How You Go There framework and resources: https://www.howyougothere.com
 
00:00 - Welcome and why sustainable growth matters
01:16 - What self-care really means
03:17 - When exhaustion becomes a badge of honor
04:26 - Habits, fitness, and peak performance
06:14 - Preparing for demanding seasons
08:05 - The six dimensions of self-care
08:31 - Personal self-care
10:23 - Making time through habits and goals
12:22 - Sponsor break
13:17 - Spiritual self-care and purpose
15:56 - Physical self-care
18:22 - How the HYGT framework fits together
19:24 - Behavioral self-care: boundaries and routines
21:09 - Emotional self-care and managing your response
23:05 - Why top performers ask for support
24:59 - Self-care in family life
27:20 - The myth of perfect work-life balance
29:32 - Professional self-care
30:08 - Three practical takeaways
31:51 - Start where you are

Two people can walk through the same experience and leave with completely different outcomes. The difference is often the lens they bring to it.In this episode, Scott Montgomery and Linda Misegadis continue the How You Go There workbook series with a practical conversation about fixed and growth mindsets. They move beyond surface-level positive thinking to explore the self-talk, humility, feedback, and choices that help people learn their way through difficult moments.Scott shares examples from family life and a challenging client conversation. Linda talks candidly about imposter syndrome, holding back in professional settings, learning to speak with conviction, and shifting from aggressive to assertive communication.The conversation closes with three useful practices: pay attention to the words you use with yourself, treat setbacks as feedback rather than verdicts, and ask what might change if you believed you could learn your way through the situation.Listen, reflect, and notice where a small shift in mindset could create a better outcome.Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/AI-4PvFMd_QLearn more: https://www.howyougothere.comFree workbook modules: https://www.howyougothere.com/hygt-pdf-giveaway
 
 
00:00 Welcome to the How You Go There workbook series00:28 Scott and Linda’s opening check-in01:47 Mindset quietly shapes decisions, challenges, and stories02:07 The mindset and self-care chapter03:05 From awareness to the How You Go There framework04:25 Same experience, different lens and outcome06:02 The coaching competencies behind the framework07:18 Mindset is not just positive thinking08:08 Readiness for change: now or later, not never08:36 Growth mindset and Carol Dweck’s work09:09 Making research practical and usable10:29 Workbook chapters can stand alone and work together11:21 Fixed mindset vs. growth mindset12:18 Scott on learning a growth mindset at home13:25 A client conflict becomes collaboration and opportunity14:40 Sponsor message: WorldGate LLC15:26 How communication style supports a growth mindset16:18 The physical effort required to shift16:35 Humility and being willing to be bad before good17:34 “The win is in the shift”17:53 Self-talk, failure, and high-achiever pressure18:31 Linda on imposter syndrome and being dismissed19:17 The fear of speaking up20:04 Learning to be assertive instead of aggressive21:51 When Linda began to feel empowered22:07 Smart, capable, and done creating self-doubt23:07 Contribute to the solution or keep complaining23:31 Growth mindset as a decision to make an impact24:36 Three practical mindset takeaways24:46 Takeaway 1: pay attention to self-talk25:11 Takeaway 2: setbacks are feedback, not verdicts25:37 Takeaway 3: learn your way through it25:57 What comes next: mindset and self-care26:39 Growth begins when you stop seeing yourself as finished27:17 Closing and call to action

Communication is not a skill you finish learning. The target keeps changing: different people, different seasons, different channels, and different stakes.In this episode, Scott Montgomery and Linda Misegadis unpack four communication styles - direct, indirect, supportive, and analytical - and show how the same message can land very differently depending on the person receiving it. They talk about self-awareness, feedback, listening, psychological safety, and why people stop contributing when they do not feel heard.The conversation also walks through a practical 'Yes, and' exercise from the How You Go There framework. The goal is not to change who you are. It is to adapt your delivery enough to protect clarity, strengthen trust, and keep the conversation moving.In this episode:- Recognize your default communication style- Notice how your message is being received- Adapt a missed-deadline message for different listeners- Practice difficult feedback before the conversation- Use 'Yes, and' to acknowledge an idea without making a premature decision- Try one small communication shift in a real conversationExplore the podcast and free HYGT workbook modules:https://www.howyougothere.com/podcastLearn more:https://www.howyougothere.com
 
 
TIME
TOPIC
00:00
Welcome and the HYGT workbook series
02:29
Communication as an evolving leadership skill
03:01
Direct, indirect, supportive, and analytical styles
04:20
Self-awareness and adapting to the receiver
07:25
Being heard, contribution, and psychological safety
10:23
Sponsor message
11:09
Workbook scenario: the missed project deadline
16:55
Preparing and practicing difficult feedback
18:37
Using 'Yes, and' to keep the conversation open
21:31
Connection, acknowledgment, trust, and momentum
22:40
A practical one-conversation challenge
23:37
Closing and website

Communication shapes how we lead, collaborate, handle conflict, build trust, and move forward.
In this episode, Scott and Linda continue the How You Go There workbook series with a practical conversation about communication styles. They discuss why self-awareness matters, how direct, indirect, supportive, and analytical communicators can misunderstand each other, and why leaders need to pay attention to both their intent and their impact.
This conversation is especially useful for anyone leading a team, working across departments, navigating tension, or trying to communicate with more clarity and care.
Listen, reflect, and take the next intentional step.
Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/fXY8JNN2LIULearn more: www.howyougothere.com
Timestamps00:00 Intro to the workbook series00:42 Why communication touches every part of the journey01:59 Communication as a leadership and growth tool03:02 Hybrid work, one-team culture, and communication gaps03:54 Inner self, inner team, and interdepartmental communication04:52 Starting with your communication style05:26 Why you should not assume bad intent06:29 Passion, volume, defensiveness, and interpretation07:05 Using the workbook communication exercises08:02 Direct vs. indirect communication08:23 Neutrality, urgency, and better emails10:20 Matching communication to your audience11:21 Awareness vs. understanding every style12:04 Direct, indirect, supportive, and analytical styles13:08 How the workbook framework builds on itself14:12 Linda’s lesson about direct communication16:11 Adapting your style as a leader17:03 Communication work belongs to all leaders18:34 Sponsor break19:19 Communication is always evolving20:11 Why experienced leaders still need perspective22:26 Reflection questions for your own style23:13 Workbook exercises and communication scenarios24:31 “You get what you give”25:14 Reducing tension through communication awareness26:35 Next episode: putting awareness into action26:57 Website and companion guide update27:27 Closing thoughts

In this episode of How You Go There, Scott Montgomery and Linda Misegadis continue the workbook series with a conversation about coaching, mentors, advisors, and the kind of support that helps people move forward with intention.
They explore what makes coaching different from mentoring or advising, why certification and structure matter, how to think about chemistry with a coach, and why the right support depends on the stage of life or leadership you are in.
The episode also connects back to the How You Go There companion guide, which helps listeners reflect on relationships, habits, goals, and the kind of coaching support they may need next.
Reflection question from the episode:Where are you right now? Do you need perspective, or do you need structure?
Resources:Website: https://www.howyougothere.comBookstore and Companion Guide: https://www.howyougothere.com/bookstoreListen and connect: https://linktr.ee/hygtpodcastSponsor mentioned: WorldGate LLC: https://worldgatellc.com
Podbean Timestamps00:00 Welcome and episode setup00:30 Coaching as the next layer after mentors and advisors02:00 What makes coaching different04:11 The workbook foundation: relationships, habits, goals, and mentors07:04 Why training and certification matter10:36 Coaching vs consulting: asking before advising11:36 How to think about coach qualities14:16 The right coach for the right season16:06 Sponsor message: WorldGate LLC16:59 Crafting your coaching request18:17 What would success look like?20:20 Guidance during career and workplace transitions21:24 Using the companion guide before hiring a coach23:17 Why books alone are not always enough25:19 Scott’s long-term leadership coaching experience26:30 The chemistry check31:09 Coaching is not fixing; it is structure and accountability32:10 Do you need perspective or structure?33:02 How to connect, book coaching, or schedule a fireside chat

In this episode of How You Go There, Scott Montgomery and Linda Misegadis continue the workbook series with a conversation about mentors, advisors, and the relationships that shape personal and professional growth.
They explore why success is never really something we do alone, how mentor relationships can show up formally or naturally, and why perspective from outside ourselves can help us move from being busy to actually moving forward. Scott and Linda also talk about gratitude, vulnerability, closure, and the difference between a mentor, an advisor, a friend, and a coach.
This conversation invites listeners to reflect on the people who have helped shape their path, the wisdom they may not have recognized at the time, and how to approach mentorship with curiosity, respect, and appreciation.
 
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Timestamps00:00 Welcome to the workbook series01:12 Mentors, advisors, and “wisdom without transaction”04:12 Mentors vs. advisors vs. coaches05:09 Realizing you already had mentors along the way06:31 Gratitude as the currency of mentorship09:03 Sponsor message09:17 The career advice that landed later11:00 Scott’s long-term mentor relationship13:13 When a mentor relationship runs its course16:11 How to ask someone to mentor you20:31 Why closure matters in mentor relationships23:06 Mentor vs. friend: what makes the relationship different25:06 Practical takeaways for finding and honoring mentors27:21 Previewing the next episode on coaching28:41 Workbook reflection prompt30:06 Closing and call to action

In this episode of How You Go There, Scott Montgomery and Linda Misegadis talk about what it really means to set goals that fit your life, your work, and the season you're in.They explore the difference between staying busy and moving with intention, how habits support goal-setting, why vision boards can be more useful than people think, and how SMART goals can create more clarity in both personal growth and leadership.This conversation also gets practical around workplace expectations, employee growth, and why better measurement and communication matter if you want goals to actually move people forward.Key themes in this episode:- working hard vs working with purpose- SMART goals in real life- time-based, focus-based, and topic-based goals- leadership, measurement, and employee alignment- current season awareness- progress over perfectionResources:Website: https://www.howyougothere.comListen everywhere: https://linktr.ee/HYGTPodcastSMART Goals worksheet: https://www.howyougothere.com/exercise-pdfs/p/smart-goals-pdfTypes of Goals worksheet: https://www.howyougothere.com/exercise-pdfs/p/types-of-goals-pdfVision Board worksheet: https://www.howyougothere.com/exercise-pdfs/p/vision-board-pdfConnect:Scott Montgomery: https://www.linkedin.com/in/howdidyougethereLinda Misegadis: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lindamisegadisSponsor mentioned:WorldGate LLC: https://worldgatellc.comTIMESTAMPS00:00 Welcome and episode setup00:30 A candid check-in and real-life start01:15 Why goals are the focus of this episode02:44 The connection between dreams, action, and goals03:23 Intentional goals vs pressure-filled goals04:05 Linda on hard work without direction06:09 Working with purpose06:31 Scott on habits, reflection, and peak performance08:06 Why vision boards matter09:17 Planning in smaller windows of time09:23 Sponsor message: WorldGate LLC10:38 Breaking down SMART goals11:19 The importance of time-bound goals12:59 Time, focus, and topic-based goals16:18 SMART goals in leadership and management18:07 Where workplace goals often fail20:32 Better goal-setting in job roles21:08 Why ongoing feedback matters23:13 How lack of clarity hurts employees24:06 Promotions, measurement, and fairness26:23 Leadership alignment and growth27:31 Start with one goal28:33 Goals and your current season29:15 Progress over perfection30:04 Where goals show up in daily life30:32 Free exercises and closing thoughts

In this episode of How You Go There, Scott Montgomery and Linda Misegadis continue the workbook series with a conversation about habits, accountability, and the small routines that shape how we show up each day.
They talk about why habits often fail when we try to change too much too fast, how the cue-action-reward loop works in real life, and why habits are less about perfection and more about creating the conditions for peak performance.00:00 Welcome to the workbook series01:55 Why habits matter more than big goals03:01 Why habits fail when we start too big05:14 Habits and peak performance08:33 The cue-action-reward loop10:29 Linda’s five-minute reflection habit13:00 Sponsor message13:46 How habits create calm and awareness14:18 Accountability, chores, and contribution17:00 Evaluating whether a habit actually helps17:52 When a habit is not right for you20:35 How small habits shape identity24:44 One habit to focus on this week26:17 Final takeaway and companion guide
From journaling and reflection to making the bed and building self-awareness, this episode offers practical ways to think differently about the habits that quietly shape your life, leadership, and next steps.
Learn more, access resources, and follow the podcast at www.howyougothere.com.
 
 

In this episode of How You Go There, Scott and Linda shift the focus to one of the most overlooked drivers of success: habits.
While goals often get the spotlight, it’s your daily habits that truly shape your performance, your leadership, and your long-term outcomes. This conversation breaks down how habits influence everything—from your relationships and partnerships to your energy, focus, and ability to lead effectively.
Through real-life examples and practical exercises from the companion guide, Scott and Linda explore how to identify your current habits, build better ones, and create a foundation for consistent growth.
If you’re looking to improve your leadership, increase your self-awareness, and operate at a higher level—this episode is where it starts.
Because the life you want isn’t built in one big moment… it’s built in the habits you practice every day.
Listen to more episodes: https://www.howyougothere.com/podcastDownload FREE companion guide modules: https://www.howyougothere.com/hygt-pdf-giveaway
Timestamps:
00:00 – Welcome + “Two Voices, One Vision” explained01:46 – Why this podcast blends multiple leadership perspectives03:42 – Why habits are the focus of this episode05:17 – What habits actually are (and why they matter)06:11 – Habits as the key to peak performance07:09 – Why habits matter more than goals07:59 – The Habit Assessment exercise explained08:45 – Why partnerships, relationships, and self-care matter10:10 – Habits that strengthen partnerships11:13 – The importance of intentional check-ins12:05 – Habits that deepen relationships12:38 – Active listening as a leadership habit14:12 – Breaking distraction and being present15:52 – Creating habits for focus and effectiveness17:03 – Preparing yourself before important moments17:50 – Self-care habits and self-awareness19:12 – “This is not an emergency” mindset20:31 – Taking a beat before reacting21:48 – Why most people fail at building habits22:07 – How to actually create sustainable habits22:25 – Eliminating vs. reducing habits23:10 – Real example: quitting smoking through habit change24:21 – Knowing yourself to build the right habits24:30 – Key takeaway: habits shape outcomes25:17 – Positive habits and consistency25:35 – Start small: consistency over intensity26:03 – Why habits drive long-term success26:32 – What’s coming next: building stronger habits26:43 – Final takeaway: small actions build the life you want

In this episode of How You Go There, Scott and Linda continue the conversation on relationships—this time focusing on how to move beyond transactional networking and start building genuine, meaningful connections.
They break down the difference between surface-level interactions and relationships rooted in authenticity, vulnerability, and consistency. Through real stories and practical exercises from the companion guide, you’ll learn how to better understand yourself, show up with intention, and create connections that actually support your personal and professional growth.
Because how you go there isn’t just about the destination—it’s about who you go there with.
Listen to more episodes: https://www.howyougothere.com/podcastGet your free companion guide: https://www.howyougothere.com/hygt-pdf-giveaway
Timestamps:
00:00 – Why relationships don’t have to last forever to matter00:23 – Introduction to the series and relationship deep dive02:19 – Transactional vs. genuine relationships03:54 – Why networking often feels performative04:42 – The “garden” metaphor for building relationships06:02 – Leading with vulnerability instead of your résumé07:26 – Rethinking the elevator pitch (“Know Thyself”)08:31 – Do transactional relationships have an expiration date?09:25 – How real connections actually start (Scott & Linda’s story)11:21 – Presence vs. positioning in conversations13:40 – The “Know Thyself” exercise explained16:21 – Finding relationships that complement (not mirror) you18:19 – Preparing for meaningful conversations20:43 – How to intentionally build deeper connections22:43 – Why consistency matters in relationships25:23 – Using the Relationship Action Plan26:18 – When credentials hurt more than they help27:48 – It’s okay for relationships to evolve or end29:02 – Weekly challenge: connect with no agenda